Many Parts to a Whole Life (Therapy)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I had a transformative experience in the hypnosis class I taught over the weekend, so of course I have to tell you all about it.  Part of My Mission in Life is to tell everyone about the astounding Power of Hypnosis.

 

My student is nearing the final phase of the advanced portion of the Hypnotherapy Certification Course, and in order to become certified she must demonstrate that she’s competent to hypnotize and effect transformation in her clients using several different tools and techniques.  We’re covering Parts Therapy for the next two weeks.

 

Parts Therapy is a way to use hypnosis to train a specific part of the mind, the part of mind that’s responsible for the origin and continuation of certain thoughts, emotions, sensations, and behaviors.  It’s an astonishingly powerful technique.  I’ve used it hundreds of times and it always provides profound changes for my clients and an endless source of learning for me and my students.  Parts Therapy involves deep trance, regression, inner child work, releasing, and suggestions for future success.  One of the fascinating aspects of teaching hypnosis is that I can explain a technique, demonstrate it for you, supervise you as you practice it with a client, and it will still work on you when it’s your turn to sit in the comfy chair—even though you’re expecting it.

 

In classes I sometimes sit in the comfy chair to experience my students’ work.  I don’t go into a deep trance in my classroom because I’m in teaching mode and I need to be lucid in order to supervise and be helpful.  Even so, I experience most of the effects and usually all of the benefits of hypnosis whenever I participate in the practicum.  With hypnosis, the benefits are always available to the client, the teacher, the student, and the observer.  The same is true with all energy work.

 

In this class I submitted to the intake interview and presented the issue that’s been on my mind for several months: Money.  I want to be free of my limiting beliefs regarding money and income.

 

She took me expertly through the intake conversation and easily identified the issues, associations in my past, and several clues in my body language that inspired her to write my hypnotic script right there on the spot (another skill that must be demonstrated in order to become certified).

 

With her help, I easily entered a light trance and easily regressed—mentally went back in time—to an incident in early childhood that influenced my lifelong attitudes about money.  In the trance I was six years old and back in the basement of my childhood home in Glendale, NY.  I could smell the room and feel the concrete floor and all of the colors and textures were vivid, including the furniture and even the sounds of traffic in the street.  My brother was there, and my father was nearby.  I was able to re-experience it and at the same time be outside of it and my comprehension and ability to place it in perspective was immediate.  It was amazing.

 

I’ve been a subject for Parts Therapy training many times, and each time it’s extraordinary.  It’s not enough to say that it’s helpful.  It can do in a few minutes what a lifetime of trying to figure out on your own probably won’t do.  You’re able to see, clearly and truly see what happened, the story you created as a result of what happened, and the difference between the two AND how to reconcile them into something powerful as a way to live from now on.

 

I got what I was looking for and I swear I feel lighter, less serious about all of it, and I’m celebrating the success that I know I’m going to have—just as my hypnotist suggested.  She allowed me to collaborate on my hypnotic script and my subconscious mind adopted it, as we both expected.  It seems like a magic trick, but it’s science.

 

My student is extraordinary, too.  She is a Doctor of Toxicology with many years of experience as a professional scientist.  She is methodical and thorough and is able to proceed with objectivity while staying focused on the plan.  I am humbled to be her teacher, and joyful with the knowledge that she is going to be great hypnotherapist.  The feeling of leading another person through this work and have them passionately embrace it is beyond words. It’s indescribable.  It’s one of the greatest feelings in the world.

 

If you’re a Certified Hypnotherapist and you want to learn more about Parts Therapy, I’m going to teach it in a separate workshop in Scottsdale, AZ in of March 2018.  See you there!

Hyp+Note=Therapy

On May 10 I’ll be on stage at the Two River Theater as a featured speaker in TEDx Navesink.  I’m very excited to be bringing a new idea worth spreading:  Music is Hypnotic.

 

Since I first got the idea a few years ago, I’ve been experimenting with compositions and arrangements and instrumentation, and crafting some new hypnotic verbal suggestions.  It’s a bit like songwriting, but with a different goal.  My music and “lyrics” are designed to facilitate trance.  The music is designed using principles of Hypnosis and the Power of Suggestion.  My exploration of this subject has been fascinating, and well, mesmerizing.  Each day in the studio passes quickly, with little effort and my concentration and focus have increased as a result of playing and listening and experiencing this new genre that I call Hyp+Note=Therapy.

 

I’ve been a musician most of my Life, and a hypnotist for years, now I get to combine the two.  As I began working on this project, I asked some prominent hypnotists if they had ever heard of such a thing.  According to what they told me, this is an original idea and has never been done before.

 

TEDx Navesink is a top-notch organization, and the team is providing the best of everything, including the technology and venue.  I am so pleased and impressed with everyone I’ve been working with over the past few months—there has been dedication at every level.  These people are among the brightest collaborators I’ve ever worked with in my career.

 

See you there?  I sure hope so!  If you weren’t able to score a ticket earlier, not to worry, I will keep you posted when the video appears later this year on www.TEDxNavesink.com.  You can also find this outstanding entity on Facebook, just click here.

 

Smoking is Relaxing

Let’s face it: some smokers don’t die from cancer. If you dwell on that fact, you are just an addict who is reaching for another excuse / rationalization / justification to continue smoking.

Forget about cancer. Not everyone dies from cancer. Some smokers don’t get cancer at all.

Here’s something most people don’t consider: the immediate effects of smoking. I’m not talking about cancer or the many other things that can happen over time. I’m talking about what happens before you are halfway done with your cigarette.

When you breathe in the smoke–and you always begin the cigarette with a deep breath of smoke–the smoke you are inhaling inundates and overwhelms the lungs. The surface of the lung is moist, so some of the smoke particles stick to the surface. Since the lungs are designed to get oxygen from each breath, that function is partially or mostly disabled for a moment, so you get less oxygen. That’s why you become light-headed–your brain is being deprived of oxygen. Notice that the smoke you breathe out has a different color and quality than the smoke that trails off the end of your cigarette. Now you know why.

Your body temperature goes up, as do your heart rate and blood pressure. You have hypnotized yourself into believing that smoking is “relaxing,” but it is actually very stressful for the physical body. Prove these for yourself with a thermometer, timepiece, BP monitor, and your ability to count. Take the measurements before you light up, write them down, then measure again after smoking half of your cigarette.

Smoke is dust. Tiny particles that are airborne. Those tiny particles scrape your throat. That’s why you cough and become hoarse. The smoke also causes dryness in the mouth and gums, and causes your breath to stink. Try getting close to a child’s face, in an affectionate way, and notice how they recoil from you. I experienced this when I was a smoker, and it made me feel ashamed, which brings us to the next point…

You have a way of denying that smoking stinks, it sucks, it’s stupid, and your body revolts against it every time you light up. There, in the background, is the thought that you are hurting yourself, so you need to cover that right away with make-believe ideas such as

• Cigarettes are my friend
• Smoking is relaxing
• I need to go out and get some fresh air
• I am bonding with other people outside the restaurant/bar/funeral home
• I have been smoking so long, what’s the difference?
• I love to smoke

The truth is still there in the background, though, and it will nag at you, so you have to repeat your cover story very loudly, shouting in order to drown out the background Truth.

If you think your lungs are not begging you to stop, you haven’t been listening. And by the way, your tongue, gums, teeth, lips, nasal passages, sinuses, and your complexion have also been complaining. You ignore them.

Let’s face it: some smokers don’t die from cancer. If you dwell on that fact, you are just an addict who is reaching for another excuse / rationalization / justification to continue smoking.

Just how full of shit are you, exactly?

My recommendation for you is to call me and make an appointment. Not now. Call me when you’re ready and I will help you. I know what I’m talking about because I’ve already blazed that trail for you, along with millions of others who want to be well.

All my Love,
James.

(732) 272-7230.

What I Love About Being An Inspirationist

I have learned—and I have proven—that whatever the conscious mind thinks about just before sleep, is repeated all night long in the subconscious mind. Of course, there is a right way and a wrong way to do this. I teach my clients how to do it for themselves, for the best success they can have.

I first became interested in hypnotism as a child, thinking that the most valuable use for it would be to get people to do whatever I want them to do.  That seems to be a very appealing notion for a youngster—to have such power!

Later, as a teenager, I wanted to use it for myself in order to overcome shyness and become a fabulous success.

Some years after that, and after a few bumps in the road, I finally settled down to study Hypnotism and practice it as much as possible and really learn it for myself. The learning began when I was able to let go of wanting any material gain from hypnotism. Hypnotism is a fascinating natural gift that anyone can have.

Now that I am fully established in my practice, with much experience and strong ties to the community, I find that my self-hypnosis is stronger than ever, and it translates to the work I do with clients.

This year I had to get really honest with myself. I had gotten so busy in my practice that my personal habits were slipping. I do a lot of business networking—really, a lot of networking!—and everywhere I went there was another buffet, dessert, a bagel and some cookies. I put on about 20 pounds without noticing much, and I stopped working out.

Of course, there were many indications that my condition was changing, because I listen to my body.

At some point I realized that I stopped practicing the principles that I preach. No one is going to want to hire a fat hypnotist. And if I’m not willing to do the work to improve my Life, how could I ask anyone else to do it?  No. If I am to be a true Inspirationist, I must live the principles and have them alive in my Life.

These days I am practicing self-hypnosis every night, right before sleep. I have learned—and I have proven—that whatever the conscious mind thinks about just before sleep, is repeated all night long in the subconscious mind.  Of course, there is a right way and a wrong way to do this. I teach my clients how to do it for themselves, for the best success they can have.

I make sure that my learning and effort to improve myself has the most altruistic goal: to be of service.

So, how does altruism work for a businessman who is a professional hypnotist? Simple. The clients I serve must pay, because they must give something in return for the value they receive. That is true for everything in Life. To get love one must show love. To earn money, one must sell something of value. To get anything, there must be effort, willingness to trade—a transaction of some kind.

My time and effort have great value because of the effort I continue to expend to improve myself, my knowledge, and my expertise. 

I charge for my services because I am willing to apply every bit of knowledge and effort to every client who sees me.  I am working for them, I love what I do, and I am always eager to help them get what they need.  My goal, always, is to teach them how to use Hypnotism for themselves.  Once you receive the great gift of Hypnotism, you can never lose it or forget it, and no one can take it from you.

I have expanded my business to include group hypnosis sessions and workshops that I provide to the general public, and I’m thrilled to say that this foray into the community has been very well received! 

The next workshop will be held on December 15 in Red Bank, NJ, and I would love to see you there.

Are You Resolved? Really?

Give yourself positive reinforcement. Now that change is in the air, give yourself the best possible chance by seeking opportunities to practice the principles that you know are right for you.

Welcome to the end-of-year season!  This is the time of year when we all go inward for introspection.  Hopefully, we assess ourselves, decide which changes we will make, and begin fine tuning ourselves and our lives.  Now that we’re here, let’s take a look at the positives and the pitfalls of making New Year’s Resolutions.

First, the pitfalls.  New Year’s Resolutions are laughed at.  They are both the joke and the punch line.  A great many people just don’t believe that lasting change is possible, so they will deride your efforts to make positive changes.

Every year at the gym, right after the New Year, there is increased traffic due to people wanting to get into shape right after the holidays.  We expect this traffic.  You want to know what the joke is?  They will all be gone in about a month.  These folks even have a name: “Resolutioners.”  It is well known that most people will not sustain the changes they plan. Here’s a tip: only tell the people in your life who will be supportive, and who are also interested in making changes for the better!

A resolution means perseverance and determination.  Changes don’t have to be painful, but the effort that you put in is equal to the results you will get.  Don’t get caught up with distractions from your goal!

Here are some ways you can reinforce your decision to change for the better.

Watch your self-talk.  Whatever doubts you have are expressed in the way we talk to ourselves.  All doubt comes from the conscious mind.  The unconscious does not argue; it only does what we tell it to do.  As you are making changes in your life, change the way you talk to yourself.  Talk as if you are a great coach to yourself.  You love yourself and you want to have the best life you can get, right?  Be a positive influence upon your own mind.

Give yourself positive reinforcement.  Now that change is in the air, give yourself the best possible chance by seeking opportunities to practice the principles that you know are right for you.  You will probably be better off making new habits and changing People, Places, and Things.

Encourage yourself to change by changing the little things: routes traveled, daily rituals and routines, and personal habits.  By doing this, new opportunities for lasting change will come into your consciousness.  When this happens, give thanks!  This is your powerful subconscious mind guiding you toward the changes you want!  Give yourself the gift of change, and go for it!

Suggestibility and Affirmations

Think of your subconscious as a child of about 10 years old. Even a stubborn child can be motivated—it’s all in your presentation. If you let a child think they came up with an idea on their own, they’ll probably jump all over it.

“Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better.” You might recognize this affirmation, originated by Émile Coué almost a century ago.

Affirmations are ideas packaged into neat phrases that are used for the purpose of self-improvement. They are typically used as meditations just before sleeping or immediately upon awakening. The theory is that the idea will act upon the subconscious, causing desired changes. This effect has been produced and replicated hundreds of times in clinical studies.

But what if your affirmation isn’t working? It might be because the exact wording doesn’t match your suggestibility. Suggestibility varies greatly among all of us, so when it comes to affirmations, one size does not fit all. Not even close.

Are you the type of person who bristles when being told what to do? If so, it’s possible that your subconscious will reject a direct suggestion. However, even if your subconscious resists authority, there’s a way that you can present it with new ideas that it will accept readily.

Think of your subconscious as a child of about 10 years old. Even a stubborn child can be motivated—it’s all in your presentation. If you let a child think they came up with an idea on their own, they’ll probably jump all over it. Keep in mind that approximately half the population is very OK with authoritarian affirmations (direct suggestions), and can accept them at face value and get results, no problem.

How can you determine your own suggestibility? That part isn’t so simple for the uninitiated, but it’s possible. If you are highly empathetic or sympathetic, if you can easily imagine physical sensations in your body, and if you are usually outgoing and eager to converse, it’s likely that you will respond to direct suggestions. Conversely, if your emotions don’t translate quickly into physical sensations, or if you tend to have difficulty connecting immediately with someone else’s emotional state, it’s likely that you’ll have more success with indirect suggestions.

Coué’s affirmation above is a direct suggestion. If you don’t have success with it, change it to an indirect suggestion and try it again for a week or so. Here are some examples: “Every day, I can get better…” or “It’s possible that every day, I am getting better…” Does your subconscious require a super indirect suggestion? Here you go: “Every day, in every way, I can give myself permission to allow myself to consider that I am getting better and better.”

Remember, your subconscious mind doesn’t analyze or evaluate, it just does what you tell it to do when you’re speaking its language. So try your affirmations as both direct and indirect suggestions, and see which one works better!

Happy New Year! Time for a change?

Your conscious mind is the part that reasons, analyzes, and uses willpower. Your subconscious, on the other hand, only does what you tell it to do—when it opens up for learning.

How’s it going? How was your holiday season? I’m in touch with quite a few people who had their share of stress over the New Year’s holiday. I wish I could get them into my office for 2-3 sessions because I know I can give each of them a great tune-up! It’s now the New Year, and millions of people are eager to change a whole bunch of things in their lives.

As we long for change and new beginnings, we also resist change at some level. People who resist change manage to hang onto the old, reject the new, and repeat their previous experiences with each new season and setting.

Most of your behaviors are automatic, or subconscious. These include bodily functions such as heartbeat, breathing, and blinking—plus a range of unwanted behaviors. How do you know which behaviors are automatic? Simple: they are the ones you can’t explain. You simply don’t know why you can’t stop or replace them with behaviors you desire. Sometimes you make up reasons and excuses such as, “I was raised that way,” or “I’m just too old to change,” but deep down you know that the subconscious desire is too strong for you to change with just plain willpower.

Your subconscious is the part of your mind that has always paid attention and never sleeps. It has learned many lessons, and it likes to act on those lessons at all times. Unfortunately, the subconscious also learns lessons that might not be good for us.

Over the years many of us learn to over-eat, for example. We learn to rely on any number of quick fixes and mood-altering situations. If you can relate to this and are having a devil of a time reforming your behaviors, welcome to your Subconscious Mind! It’s where your hidden desires demand to be satisfied. It’s an amazing and wonderful place. I know, because I work there full-time.

There’s another way: Hypnotherapy. Hypnotherapy is a way into the subconscious in order to remove unwanted behaviors, alter your Life Script, and improve general wellness.

Hypnosis is science, although it seems like magic. In the hands of a skilled, educated professional working with a motivated client, the results are fascinating. When you succeed with hypnotherapy, you understand the infinite power of your own subconscious wisdom, and you recognize that you are powerful. At the moment that your conscious desires and subconscious capacity for learning align, you become unstoppable! Right now, whatever condition you are in, I assure you that your internal resources are abundant, and they are accessible to you.

Hypnosis is commonly known to work wonders for people who want to quit smoking or lose weight. It’s also great for reducing stress and anxiety. Did you know it can help you re-write your Life Script? Yes, you can change your subconscious expectations of how much you earn annually, general health and conditioning, even the kind of people you will attract into your life. You can use hypnosis to improve your golf game, heal faster from surgery, and deal with grief. The subconscious, while in hypnosis, is ready to learn new lessons and change the course of your life.

If this sounds hard to believe, it’s because you’re thinking about this with your conscious mind. Your conscious mind is the part that reasons, analyzes, and uses willpower. Your subconscious, on the other hand, only does what you tell it to do—when it opens up for learning.

For a professionally trained hypnotist, the process is simple, short term, and highly effective. We can help you unlock your subconscious, because we have the keys to the front door.

I Can Do Anything I Want

I can do anything I want.

It’s true!  I can do anything, go anywhere, get anything, and meet anyone I desire.

This, for me, is the beginning of all the positive changes I make in my Life.  It seems paradoxical, but in order to push past my limitations, I first consider the range of abundance before me in all directions. Continue reading “I Can Do Anything I Want”

We Are Trance Partners

We’re in this together, and I always go first. I’ve never failed to put anyone in a trance, as long as they were willing to experience the process.

I’ve heard the relationship called “trance partners,” and that makes sense to me. Whenever I conduct a session, I always go into a light trance. I can’t go deep because I’m the guide. That means I always go first. I lead you in, and at the end I lead you out again.

Hypnotic trance isn’t the same as relaxation or meditation. Continue reading “We Are Trance Partners”

To Everything There Is A Season

As a summertime man who lives on the coast of New Jersey, I miss the summer months when I can forget about coats and gloves, and go for a drive with the top down.  This year I’m trying something new:  I’m doing whatever I can to appreciate the beauty of the changing seasons.  Mother Nature has her way, and she is consistent.

As the seasons change in a temperate climate, one day the temperature drops considerably, suddenly getting our attention.  If we had been watching more closely, we would have seen the signs of change all along.  The first day of autumn can seem like a typical summer day.  Then a day comes that’s nothing like summer, and we become conscious that the seasons are changing all the time.

I have this theory that people are seasonal, too. Continue reading “To Everything There Is A Season”