What I Hated About My TEDx Talk

“Don’t teach them anything.  Just hypnotize them.”

This was the message I got from the very worthy committee of volunteers who were organizing this year’s TEDx event.  But wait a second… I thought TED is all about “ideas worth spreading.”  I had spent three months developing the idea I had proposed—the idea that they accepted—and now I was being asked to NOT teach my idea.

There I was, with less than three weeks to go before my big debut, and they were telling me to change what I had worked on for three months.  I responded by doing what I know how to do: I took the lemons and made lemonade.  Actually, I scrapped everything I had prepared, completely cleared the board, and started from scratch.  I worked over night, and by dawn I had the whole thing sketched out entirely.  The music that you hear in the video is what I created that night using a synthesizer and drum sequencer.  All I needed at that point was refinement, and I used all of the remaining days and weeks to accomplish that.

It’s not that I hate being told what to do (maybe there’s a little of that); it’s that my idea is original, it’s worth spreading, and I really wanted to take it out for a spin and show it off to the world.  My idea is something that other hypnotists missed.  According to every professional hypnotist and entertainer I consulted, no one has done this before.  Let’s face it: I wanted to be impressive.  That is always the case, and I have no one to blame other than my own ego.

The thing that bothered me the most—and I acknowledged this immediately—is that I was unable to convince the committee that my idea is compelling just as I presented it.  My idea has complexity and is not for an average audience.  I would need to begin with simple information that is easy to grasp and then take them on a journey of thought, then circle back to the entirely familiar experience of listening to music and then demonstrate WHY music is hypnotic.  I wanted to teach my Idea Worth Spreading.

Therein lies the crux of my problem.  Most people in the world don’t understand Hypnosis and are not willing to sit through an explanation.  What most people are fascinated by are their own, preconceived notions, and they have a hard time reconciling new information with their ingrained ideas about “making” people do outlandish things.  People prefer to have the razzle-dazzle, instantly impressive, just-make-me-bark-like-a-chicken, laughing hypnosis.

I don’t know why I thought it would be different when I proposed my Idea Worth Spreading to a highly intelligent group of TED people.  Surely they would want to peek under the hood of Hypnosis to see how it works.  They are so sharp and so discerning, I thought I had finally found my audience.  Not.

The real problem is that humans are extremely limited in the way we understand things, and we become more limited as a result of more education and experience.  We get locked into seeing the world as we think it is, and less likely to see the world in an unlimited way, full of possibilities, which it truly is.  Hypnosis and magic and deception are fascinating, and we get fooled into thinking that the surface effects are the most interesting thing.  They’re not.  The interesting thing is the way the mind works—filtering, deciphering, and creating.  The most interesting thing is the way you create the world every day in your mind, and then you walk around thinking that what’s out there is the same thing you created in your mind.  The funny part is that you walk around every day without a thought of appreciation for the amazing structure and potential of your own brain.

The bottom line for me, and the thing that took almost a year for me to get clear about, is that I’m a scholar.  I won’t be happy as an entertainer who does nothing else in terms of work and energy.  I want to uncover as many secrets as I can, practice with them, and teach what I know.

I also learned that with my TEDx talk, I compromised my integrity.  I was so eager to get on that stage that I went along with their requests and I didn’t hold out for what would have been really great and revolutionary.  I failed in my attempt to explain my idea which is way more fascinating and entertaining than simple group hypnosis—and demonstrating the effects of hypnosis on a group is very, very simple. 

Oh, one more thing: I am entirely grateful to have appeared on that stage.  Everyone involved was wonderful, friendly, and supportive and it was a terrific experience.  And I now have my first TEDx talk under my belt.  I didn’t present what I set out to do, but I am very pleased with the result.

It’s on video, right here on YouTube:


God, Religion, Spirituality, and Humanity

I don’t know much about religions and have never been interested in worshipping with others in a group or associating my beliefs with anyone else’s.  I was confirmed as a Catholic at age 12—way before I had enough experience or knowledge to make that choice on my own.  They confirmed me, but I did not commit to them in a powerful way.  I know a few basic facts about some of the major religions in the world, but I consider them to be common knowledge.

I am an expert about my own sense of Spirituality.  This is something I think about quite a lot and I am comfortable in my own beliefs.  I don’t teach what I believe and I don’t ask anyone to go along with it.  What I believe can’t possibly harm anyone.  What you believe has nothing to do with me.  I might be interested in your beliefs at some level, but I think talking about religious beliefs is like talking about shoe size—we each have opinions, beliefs, attitudes, and inclinations that we did not consciously choose or adopt, yet here they are.

One of my beliefs is that God is an invention.  I think we made up God as a way to find comfort in trying to explain unexplainable things, and understand unknowable things.  I have seen no evidence of God.  I have felt powerful emotions and thoughts and I associate them with profound learning and personal growth.  If you insist that those things are evidence of God, I won’t argue with you.   How can I?  Lots of people have told me that the amazing natural beauty of the world, and Life itself, is proof that God exists.

God, to me, is the system of order in the Universe.  Some people might call it Mother Nature, or The Way Things Are.  It’s what is at play when we say All Things Happen For A Reason, or Everything Always Works Out For The Best.  I agree with the previous two statements.  We might not understand the reason or see that the best thing happened, but that’s because the Universe is vast and we can’t possibly comprehend the many workings from our earthly perspective.

I can’t prove that reincarnation exists, but it makes sense to me.  I think it explains differences in native intelligence, natural capabilities, and déjà vu.  I have conducted Past Life Regression sessions with clients, and it is always a powerful experience for them.

Regarding Spirituality and my profession of Hypnosis, my beliefs matter.  It is my belief that I am at my best when I love my clients and have a high regard for them.  I keep clients at a professional distance, but I still treat them with Love and caring, deference, and respect for their spiritual and religious beliefs.  I get to know something about how they see the Universe, and we use that as leverage to help them change and improve and develop.

I believe in people, that people are basically good, and that I can find and attract goodness by being a good person and behaving in a loving way as much as I can.  I believe that God (as I define it) acts upon me and that it’s up to me to pay attention and act accordingly and consciously to improve the world around me.  I believe that the more I do this, the richer my Life becomes, and I improve my ability to inspire others.  I believe I am getting better, and everyone can.

I believe that evil exists in human nature, and that we all have the potential to produce evil.  I believe that human potential can go in any direction and all directions.  I don’t believe evil exists anywhere else except among intelligent beings.  I don’t believe there is good or evil in the food chain, animals preying upon other animals.  I don’t believe that death is sad—I think loss is sad, and murder is sad.  (Murder is a legal term; some forms of homicide are sad, but not all, depending on circumstances.)

I believe in a higher order, Universal Law, hierarchy of standards, and righteousness.

I believe in Universal Healing Energy and that it can’t be fully understood or explained, and to me it is God.  God, the Universal system of order, energy, and healing is at work all the time, within us and around us.

I believe my views are extremely limited.  There are so many things I have not experienced: famine, abject poverty, extreme losses and grief, acute or terminal diagnosis and illness, major surgery—how can I know what it’s like to have my faith tested when those things happen?  When I hear people talking about their experience with such things, I realize that I am a novice in Life even at my mature age.

I believe that God is there for me at all times, and I can tap into that power at anytime, and that whatever I learn in this Life I will carry with me into the next one.  I believe that I am carrying things from previous existences, and not all of those things are helpful or true.

I think we all have choices and we make choices, and the human condition is to make mistakes—lots of mistakes.

I believe in me, and I believe in you.

I believe that you become stronger whenever you consider your own Spirituality, or your decision to turn away from it, and the most natural thing in the world is to ignore it completely and behave as if there are no such things as miracles.  I think it is up to us to grab onto optimism and cheerfulness, hope, forgiveness, patience and tolerance, compassion, understanding, faith, and everything else that goes under the heading of LOVE.

To me, all of those things are God, and God is Love.


D-Day and Combat!

There’s a lot to say about D-Day, WWII, the “Greatest Generation,” and the military through the ages, but this year I just want to say a few things about Combat!

Combat! was a TV show that ran for five seasons, 1962-1967. It centered on the experiences of one squad, beginning on D-Day.  They land at Omaha beach and then begin fighting their way across France.  The squad is continually faced with missions that turn out to be challenging and tough, with not quite enough resources to do the job, and replacements who have more experience as cooks and grease monkeys rather than infantry combat.

I can’t really explain why I got hooked on this show recently.  There are a few reasons for me to be uninterested: I’ve never been in the military and I’m (mostly) a pacifist.  I don’t agree with all U.S.foreign policy and I strive to understand why the people of some foreign nations dislike us.  Even so, I think this is show is terrific and it grips my imagination.  I began watching it from the beginning and I’m now in Season 3.

Maybe it’s because of all the change and turmoil that’s been going on inside me and around me for the last few months.  Maybe it’s because I really want to be more like Sgt. Saunders.  Maybe it’s because I appreciate the solidarity of the squad and their loyalty to Saunders, Lt. Hanley, and each other.  Maybe it’s because these are men who don’t sit around and complain and whine about their feelings.  These men get the job done and watch out for each other while at the same time demanding a lot from each other.  Some themes are constant: they don’t leave wounded behind, they fight with incredible spirit, they protect those who are weaker, they don’t abuse prisoners, and they behave with honor at all times.  OK, I guess I just figured out why I love this show.

Combat! does not glorify war.  Many of the episodes are anti-war.  There is a great deal of humanity there—personal stories, drama, some laughs and some satire.  The writers and directors and cast all went deep.  There’s a lot more going on there besides killing.  A lot of the episodes have scenes with very little dialogue, so the actors had to really stretch in order to tell the story.

This was a highly successful, highly acclaimed show in its day, with a great many guest-stars who went on to greater fame later on, and a few great episodes have Robert Duval, James Coburn, Lee Marvin, Beau Bridges, James Whitmore, Rip Torn, Charles Bronson, James Caan, Sal Mineo, Roddy McDowell, Dennis Hopper, Harry Dean Stanton, Keenan Wynn, Warren Oates, and Dean Stockwell—to name just a few.

Watch it on YouTube and other sites.  You can begin at the beginning, or start with one of these great episodes:

A Gift Of Hope ~ Season 3, Episode 11 (December 1, 1964)

The Duel ~ Season 3, Episode 4 (October 6, 1964)

The Bridge at Chalons ~ Season 2, Episode 1 (September 17, 1963)

Please let me know what you think about Combat!  No one in my Life is interested at all, so I would love to be able to talk about this with someone  :-/


On May 10 I’ll be on stage at the Two River Theater as a featured speaker in TEDx Navesink.  I’m very excited to be bringing a new idea worth spreading:  Music is Hypnotic.


Since I first got the idea a few years ago, I’ve been experimenting with compositions and arrangements and instrumentation, and crafting some new hypnotic verbal suggestions.  It’s a bit like songwriting, but with a different goal.  My music and “lyrics” are designed to facilitate trance.  The music is designed using principles of Hypnosis and the Power of Suggestion.  My exploration of this subject has been fascinating, and well, mesmerizing.  Each day in the studio passes quickly, with little effort and my concentration and focus have increased as a result of playing and listening and experiencing this new genre that I call Hyp+Note=Therapy.


I’ve been a musician most of my Life, and a hypnotist for years, now I get to combine the two.  As I began working on this project, I asked some prominent hypnotists if they had ever heard of such a thing.  According to what they told me, this is an original idea and has never been done before.


TEDx Navesink is a top-notch organization, and the team is providing the best of everything, including the technology and venue.  I am so pleased and impressed with everyone I’ve been working with over the past few months—there has been dedication at every level.  These people are among the brightest collaborators I’ve ever worked with in my career.


See you there?  I sure hope so!  If you weren’t able to score a ticket earlier, not to worry, I will keep you posted when the video appears later this year on www.TEDxNavesink.com.  You can also find this outstanding entity on Facebook, just click here.


Three Really Cool Things To Know About Quantum Creativity

Get the most from your brain today by pondering these ideas, and then go forth and inspire.  Exercise the parts of your brain that could use a little illumination!

1.       All possibilities are in existence at all times—until you observe them. That’s right, everything is possible at all times unless or until you focus.  Once you settle on one thing and narrow your vision, your possibilities shrink.  It’s like turning at the fork in the road and going along in one direction instead of the other.  The good news is that any of the ‘good’ possibilities can turn out great! Just keep going, keep building. Anytime you open to the infinite, all possibilities occur to you all over again.

2.      The path you picked doesn’t have to be the one you stay on. Remember, all possibilities are in existence at all times.  Although your choice limits your path, new possibilities are created with every new thought, and even more powerfully with each new action.

3. Your subconscious mind remains in contact with limitless possibilities. The greatest thing of all is that you can tap the subconscious by asking the right questions at the right time.  I love hypnosis.  It’s a shortcut that has been known since ancient times.  Here’s how to tap your subconscious today: Formulate your question and craft it as clearly and accurately as you can.  Make sure it’s the right question that is seeking an answer that will be useful. Concentrate on the question.  Now…forget it.  Yes, you read me correctly—forget about it.  Shift your attention to something else.  If you have asked the question clearly and accurately, your subconscious will deliver the answer to you later.  Guaranteed!  (Hey, I didn’t write the warranty on your brain, but I know this much about how it works 🙂 )

Your brain is agile and it loves to work!  The more you test it and challenge it, the more it responds.  You have seen and heard about people who recover from serious brain injuries, and their progress seems fantastic and miraculous—it is! Your brain is fantastic and miraculous, and it’s waiting for some further instruction right now.  Make this a great day!


To exercise and increase your possibilities and play with your neuro-plasticity, go to TEDxNavesink on May 10 at the Two Riv in Red Bank: http://tedxnavesink.com/play

To find out more about Hypnosis and Your Brain, go to www.TranceFormationHypnosis.com

The Opposite of Fear

What a mess. We all agree that Life is moving along faster than ever, there isn’t enough time, and we don’t always use time wisely. We all know that no one lives forever and that time is a non-renewable resource—so why do we live with tension, regret, anger, resentment, grief, sorrow?  Why do we accept the side-effects of insomnia, grumpiness, depression, learning and attention disorders, unpleasant physical conditions?  Most importantly,how do we get back on track and stay there?

Anxiety, stress, nervousness, insecurity are fancy words for one thing: Fear.  It’s true that these words are not exactly interchangeable, but we use them to indicate the same thing: We’re uncomfortable at some level. These things detract from Quality of Life.

As a Hypnotist and Inspirationist, there are questions that drive me forward.  How do we deal with our fears in an effective way that can be permanent?  Why is it that when we are distracted away from our concerns, they don’t matter at all? How will my Life change when I become more relaxed and less tense?

That last question is a good one to ask someone when they are stressed.  When they answer that question they can reveal things about their goals, values, vision—or their lack of clarity in these areas.  This is also a good way for them to begin to assess their situation.

Every child knows how to lie back in the grass and watch the clouds go by, on a beautiful day, without a care in the world.  At some point, we grow older.  Jobs, school, responsibility, family, career,a diagnosis, a knock at the door—any of these things can change your Life’s direction on a dime.  Either suddenly or gradually, we start to tense up somewhere, in mind and body, and we forget what it’s like to watch the clouds drift by.

There are a number of great ways to re-learn or remember or to practice watching the clouds go by. In fact, ACTUALLY LYING DOWN AND WATCHING THE CLOUDS GO BY is an excellent way to relax!  Why don’t we do that?  Maybe because it seems so simple and we think that the complex of anxiety requires a complex solution.  It does not. It only requires some practice.

OK, so let’s say you can’t let go of tension.  There’s only one reason for that: you are attached to it.  Maybe there is some secondary benefit to you being tense. Maybe you’ve been hanging onto it for a long time and it’s an ingrained habit.  Here’s the thing: as long as you hang onto it, you practice being tense, and you become really, really good at it.  An expert.  A real professional!

How to stop doing that? A hypnotist would never suggest, “Stop doing that.”  We know better. Instead, we train you to do something else.

When you become generally more relaxed, you’re still you.  You live in the same home, drive the same car.  You will laugh at the same jokes.  The difference is that when you relax you begin to make better decisions. Your shoulders go back and down and you naturally begin to release physical tension.  You smile more, or at least frown less.  People around you pickup on this, subliminally, and they become easier with you.  Your Life changes for the better, and that changes your Possible Future.  I’ve seen this happen with many clients, and you can see this happen in your Life.  It just takes practice.

If you need help, get help. Hypnosis is my favorite modality because it’s so simple!  All you need is your own Power of Suggestion.  Practice with relaxation,combined with suggestions for relaxation and integration of your best Internal Resources, and you will get really good at that!  Call me if you have a question.

See you on the other side!

Cursing Out Loud

I am a public speaker, presenter, and teacher.  I speak in front of audiences about 20 times each year and I love what I do.  Underneath the very visible public image, I am a Hypnotist and Inspirationist.  I influence people.  I also teach what I do as a Hypnotist and a presenter.  Every summer, I teach a long workshop for all who want to improve their presentation skills.  Presenting is influencing.  Believe me, I use influential, persuasive, motivational, inspirational language all the time—with clients, audiences, and with the people I love and who love me back.  My entire career is based on communication, language, and linguistics.

Here’s one question that I deal with from my students all the time: “Is cursing during my presentation a benefit or a detriment?”  Here are some thoughts.

For this argument, I will just deal with curse words that are obvious, not borderline; the ones that are squarely in the area of stuff Mom would not want us to say anywhere.  I’m just going to deal with any words or language that we were not permitted to say in classrooms of our youth.  Anything you would not say to a judge in any courtroom to which you are summoned.

Know your audience. Some groups, especially younger people, will appreciate a few curse words.  You might warm them up or get some giggles that way. It also seems to work well with audiences of like-minded people who are bonding over an issue, political stance, or cultural touchstone.  It also seems safer if you are part of your audience’s demographic group.

Know yourself. Don’t do it if any of George Carlin’s Seven Words You Can’t Say On Television don’t naturally roll off your tongue. If you can’t curse as effortlessly as Chris Rock, you won’t fool anyone, so don’t even try.

Know your topic. Cursing might be entirely inappropriate to what you are talking about.  If it seems out of place while you are rehearsing, better to just use the style that fits.

Know your content. Content is not the same thing as topic.  Content includes everything: introduction, jokes, anecdotes, conclusions, assertions, summations, and your style.  If your content can support cursing and if all the other conditions are in your favor, it will probably go over OK.

Don’t use that language as a place-holder or substitute. If you are presenting yourself as an expert speaker, have an expert knowledge of language, jargon, slang, and all parts of grammar.  Don’t pretend by using a few curse words in place of clear language.

It’s never necessary. It may be funny, cool, endearing—or it may not be any of those things.  There are many deciding factors, and you can’t be in control of them at all times.   You can go with the flow, but that flow is collaboration between audience and presenter.

Be present to the Greater Good. If there is anyone in your audience who might be turned off by cursing, why do it?  Why not show consideration, rather than alienation?

Be true to yourself. Always be true to your language and your way of speaking. If you are inclined to curse before your audience, that is an indication of your attitude, and that’s highly visible to everyone. If you feel that your character can be questioned based on your language, then it’s up to you to decide how to express yourself in order to be yourself.

Finally, in just about every case I’ve ever seen by a public speaker who wasn’t a stand-up comedian or actor performing a monologue, cursing went hand-in-hand with uneducated grammar.  If you ever pay money to hear a presenter who uses curses in place of clear language, I hope you will ask for a refund.

Old Tapes, a Familiar Hypnotic Refrain…

As a Hypnotist and Inspirationist in full-time practice, I often hear my clients talk about “old tapes” and the power they have over thoughts and feelings and habits.  It is a very familiar metaphor that is instantly understood to mean previous conditioning.  They’re “old” tapes because the behaviors continue even though we wish to replace that conditioning with something else.  “Old tapes” have us under their spell.

Here’s a way to train the conscious mind toward change.  This is what I do with clients all the time, and when combined with Hypnosis, it’s very powerful.  We can continue the metaphor of “old tapes” and begin to make that mean something else.  See if you can follow this reasoning…

Old tapes are old because we don’t use audio tape anymore. Nowadays we use digital audio to capture and play back programs.  Here, in the 21st century, tapes are obsolete.

At one time we thought that program was important, but after using it a million times over the years the tape wore out, and the program is obsolete.  In order to improve things, we can use the modern processes of digitizing and editing and re-mastering in order to update the program into what we want it to be right now.

Digitizing is the process of converting the tape to digital format.

Editing means cutting and revising.

Re-mastering is the art of making it sound better, for use on modern equipment.

Take the “old tape” and convert it to digital, so we can now examine any part of the program instantly.  Now that it is converted, edit and revise by taking out the old stuff.  Take your time with this.  Examine what’s there now and what you want to keep or discard.  Throw away the obsolete parts.  Replace those with your new ideas.  Create new opinions, beliefs, and attitudes and install them into the program.  Now that they are installed, re-master the program to make it sound great.  You can improve the sound by altering the stereo effect to Surround sound, adjusting the equalization (EQ), and even raising all the levels to make the whole thing louder.

All of this is metaphor.  To put it into practical application, spend the day or the next few days observing your own behavior.  Anything that’s automatic is an old tape.  You do things without thinking about them.  Some of them are good and necessary.  The thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that you don’t like are the tapes you will begin to change.  If you need help, get help.  There is no shame in getting help—that’s the smart thing to do!

In order to complete the process, I use self-hypnosis. That’s what I teach my clients, and we practice until it becomes very easy for you to do.  Self-hypnosis begins by removing distractions, so sit or lie still and quietly, and close your eyes.  Create your future way of being in your imagination.  In your mind, create the images, sensations, and emotions that you will have as you are going about your Life in your new way of being.  With practice, you will be able to use this mysterious power at will, with almost no effort.

This art is ancient and was originally practiced and known only to great masters.  Maybe you’ve heard of it.  Some people call it The Secret.  The practice of this art uses an unseen force known as The Law of Attraction.

Huge Tip for Staying Positive in the New Year – Read This.

You’re reading this because you want a great way to stay positive. You are interested in improving things and developing new ways of being and feeling happy and contented.  Now is the perfect time to do this.  I’m here to install this new idea directly into your mind, and this is a big one.

You’ve heard of vision boards, right?  A vision board is a poster-sized collection of images that illustrate what you want to be / do / have in your Magnificent Future.  The idea is that you gather the images from any source—magazines, typically—then paste them onto a poster board.  You end up with a mind map of images that will influence you to achieve what is indicated in the images that you yourself have selected.  You look at your vision board several times each day, with intention.  You are free to change the images at any time, re-arrange them, or start over from scratch with a brand new board.  I’ve done this.  It’s highly effective.

What if you don’t have the resources at hand and you would like to begin something inspiring right now? Here you go…

Create a flyer for yourself. That’s right, a flyer.  A flyer is an advertisement and an announcement and an invitation.  It’s eye-catching, attractive, Truthful, irresistible, and created for a specific market. And it’s portable!

Make up a flyer that advertises your Fabulous Future. Promise that your Fabulous Future will happen.  Make it sound so juicy that you can’t resist.  Use all the fonts and colors that you love, and make it so gorgeous you must see it several times each day, every day.  Use the language that is so luscious to your eyes and ears.  You want this flyer to be irresistible to you. Create it the way it will be most appealing to you.  Let it be artistically creative.  You may include pictures.  Be an inspiration and positive influence upon yourself!

Your flyer is not a plan or list of goals. It’s an invitation to your future.  It is a welcoming, enticing promise of the wonderful things to come.  It is an advertisement of what you will have when you bring these things into being through your own positive actions.

Print out your flyer and place it where you can see it. It might be private, or it may be something for all to see.  Look at it morning, noon, and night. Check in with it at mealtimes and bedtime.  Share it or shelter it—whichever is best for you.  Begin now.  Your flyer doesn’t have to be perfect or final.  Expect and accept and choose that the information will change over time, as you achieve and learn and grow.

Develop this idea for yourself. Your flyer might turn in to your next book, CD, movie, anime, poem, short story, blog, love letter, or a completely new art form.  Let that idea soar!

Special Bonus Tip: Write a heart-felt letter to yourself about your Fabulous, Magnificent Future, and stamp it and snail-mail it.  When you get it back, open it up right away and give it your full attention as you read.  It came from someone you love!  Don’t want to use snail mail?  Then set up a phone reminder or schedule an e-mailing via Constant Contact or Mail Chimp!

Let me know how you’re doing.  I would love to hear how this works for you as you proceed to your fabulous future.  Feel free to send a note to me at James@TranceFormationHypnosis.com

What Are You?

I’m not asking WHO are you, I am asking WHAT are You? Ask yourself what you are right now, what you are committed to doing and feeling, and what kinds of ways you are going to be today. I am asking you to ask yourself WHAT will I BE today, and HOW will I be in the world?

The world around you only sees what you do and how you are being. You don’t get points for pure intention, you only get credit (and cred) for what you actually do and for the ways you can be. Examples of ways of being are Happy, Focused, Friendly, Committed, Excited, Passionate, Relentless, etc. (I love etc. It’s the etc. in Life that always gets my juices flowing. Big Time.)

As always, you get to decide how you will be, who you will be, and what you are committed to. You are writing your biography every day. What people will say about you in years to come depends upon what you do and how you are being today and every day. Get committed, and follow through.

Just like Walt Whitman, you contain multitudes. Every human has enormous possibilities for good, bad, and mediocre. If you have ever been courageous, even for a second, you are courageous. If you have achieved anything, you are an achiever. And if you have confidence in any area of your Life, you are confident. You contain multitudes.

Mediocre is easy. Extreme good is difficult because it involves more sacrifice and more risk. I like to deal with outliers because extraordinary is more interesting. Look, you’re going to live this life anyway–why not make it a fabulous life? Why not go down in the history of your world as having been exceptional, great, and inspiring!

In my work with clients, I make it more possible for them to connect to their greatness. I help them gain access to their infinite Best Self and most Confident Courage. With practice, they more easily activate their personal power, and their success multiplies over time. When you get better in one area, you get better in every area of your daily experience. This has been proven thousands of times in client sessions and beyond. (Remember the etc. I mentioned earlier? The etc. is what happens after clients begin their Life’s work with me.)

Write a list of all the things you are. Write down all of your positive characteristics. Don’t leave anything out. Carry the list with you and add to it each and every time you realize new ones. Let this list remind you that You contain multitudes!

You are multi-faceted—own that. This can become a very long list of things that you know about yourself, and this exercise is one more step on your Path of Self-Awareness.

Here’s a sample list of Ways of Being:



Just so you know…

I am doing this work, too. Every single day. I am committed to being in the game, playing Big all the time, taking it to the limit, pushing the envelope, increasing my capacities, and becoming limitless and containing multitudes. Here is what I am committed to being: